Part 1“In times of change the learners will inherit the earth, while the learned find themselves beautifully equipped to live in a world that no longer exists.”
You may have heard the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results… But do people actually believe that doing the same activities and maintaining the same beliefs will produce different results? That would be… Insane!
Our headlines are full of stories of good people gone astray. When that person was a baby, they didn’t set the goal to become a failure. They didn’t intend their life to be less than successful. We hear about them on the evening news, on the front page of newspapers, and splashed across the weekly tabloids. But the truth is they didn’t become this “failure” person overnight. It was a process of neglect, bad habits, bad company, bad decisions and bad beliefs and often low self esteem. In many ways, these sad stories have become a national obsession. We can’t wait to turn on the evening news to hear of all the bad stuff! We can be so busy judging these people and we may think, “I can’t believe they could be so stupid!” She’s lost her mind,” or “What an idiot,” or “Why would someone risk everything?” We think we are judging these people based on their “disgraceful behaviour” but in reality we may be just seeing ourselves and our own short comings. Countless acts of self-destructive behaviour and sabotage take place in our own dysfunctional families, in our communities, in our circle of friends.
None of us ever want to admit to doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results, because we always have a GOOD REASON why THIS TIME the results will be different…
Your business, your clients, your relationships and even your world are in a constant state of movement and change. To survive in today’s world we have to “live” in the world of change, learning new thought processes, and becoming more than we were as a person yesterday. This can be terrifying for some of us.
The above quote from Eric Hoffer does a brilliant job of explaining the importance of embracing change. If you have the philosophy “if it ain’t broke don’t fix it!”, or you have resisted learning in our world of change, or stopped advancing in new technology, or keep doing it the way you have always done it; then your competition may pass you by. The needs of your clients may change, the needs and wants of your family may change, and relationships may alter.
It’s been said that people don’t like change. However the facts reveal to us that in the process of change is when you are usually the happiest, most productive and the most creative. Studies show that people actually really do like change, they just don’t like being forced to change, especially by others. We want the decision to change to be our own and we need to understand the benefit of the proposed changes.
The definition of sabotage is “a treacherous action to defeat or hinder a cause or an endeavour…” You may now be thinking I’m talking about some sort of negative self-image or lack of self-esteem holding you back when I talk of the ‘secret saboteur’. In reality it’s much more and even simpler than that!
All the self-help information out there contains valuable material. Essentially however, the common message is that you must eliminate negativity and self-criticism and believe in getting what you want. It all really boils down to these fundamental truths.
It doesn’t seem right – why would anyone ever sabotage their own success? That would be… Insane! BUT, the Secret Saboteur has been undermining your efforts. All that valuable learning wasted! And ‘mysteriously’, your efforts fail.
Your wealthcoach, Yvonne
